Sunday, October 31, 2010

More than a weekend of trick-or-treating...

...though we did go!  Our neighborhood did trick-or-treating tonight, and our plan was to skip it this year. But when Jasmin said she and her little cousin, Chase, would be in town for a birthday party, and would stop by and trick-or-treat with us, of course Morgan and I were all over it!


Morgan and Chase did great and were very nice to each other for the most part.  I mean, everyone takes toys and sippy cups from other people every once in a while, right? :)  On the walk back home, Morgan kept asking to get out and Chase was super-sleepy, so the timing was just right.  Fun Halloween evening!

This weekend brought about some major changes in our household.  Bittersweet changes, but needed changes.  Morgan slept in her own room.

Let me back up.  So, remember about a year ago I mentioned that we let Morgan sleep with us a few nights?  And how I was afraid it'd become a habit because she didn't want to nap in her crib one day?  Well, that habit turned into a year-long habit. :) 

When she was a baby-baby, co-sleeping was a no-no in this house.  But when she was about 10 or 11 months old, pretty much out of that SIDS-risk age, I was couldn't wait to snuggle up with my sweet girl for the whole night!  Which is why I never had a problem when our bed turned into a family bed.  The time at night when she'd snuggled with her daddy and me was just PRICELESS.  We both loved every minute of it (well, most of it -- when she wasn't kicking us in the face).

So why would we move her to her bed now?

Well, let me start with a little timeline:

Early Fall 2009 - Great sleeper (in her own bed).  Great sleep schedule (7 PM to 7 AM). Needed me to rock her to go to sleep, but I loved that! 

Late Fall 2009 - Started sleeping with us.  Still a perfect sleep schedule.  No more rocking needed -- just needed me right there next to her to fall asleep.  I loved that, too!

Spring 2010 - Early Summer 2010 - Still sleeping with us, still needing me (or anyone, really, but preferably me) right there next to her to fall asleep.  Still on a decent schedule.

Mid and Late Summer 2010 - I sort of let up on the "sleep schedule" thing.  Started being a little more flexible (hey, it was summer!).

Early Fall 2010 - She wanted me right there next to her still, but she wanted to PLAY, not sleep...and that's where the problems began...

I was used to staying with Morgan until she fell asleep and then getting up and doing my housework and whatever else needed to be done.  Well, when she wouldn't fall asleep for two and three hours (I'm NOT kidding), it became a problem.  Of course around that time, I'd be exhausted, too.  And that meant two things:  I'd become really frustrated because she wouldn't go to sleep or when she did go to sleep, I'd be too tired to get up and do what I needed to do afterwards.  But I'd have to, anyway, and I'd be groggy and feel like crap the next morning.  I had another word, but crap works.

But that was not the defining moment for me.  She started having little nightmares.  She would go through these little whining episodes in the middle of the night.  So much that Danny or I would have to soothe her.  I didn't like that.  So I looked it up, and found that although it's common, it's usually caused by sleep deprivation or a broken sleep schedule.  And I'd have to say I am guilty of both.  If we were in bed by 7:30, and she'd stay up playing (in the dark, mind you -- I'd have the lights off), it would be 9:30, 10:30, sometimes later that she would go to sleep.  Not okay.

So when I realized my sweet baby was having nightmares because I wasn't the mama-who-insists-her-baby gets-enough-sleep anymore (because I was definitely that mama -- very strict about her sleep schedule), I had to make a change.  This major change.

And it's bittersweet.  I was ready to let her sleep with us until she didn't want to anymore.  I didn't care what people said or thought about not-letting-your-child-sleep-with-you-or-you'll-breed-a-monster.  I knew she wouldn't come home from prom and crawl in bed with us, so it just wasn't that big a deal to me.  Her daddy and I both work, so those quiet times at night in bed were very special to us.

But when it started affecting her in that way, there was no question that it was time to let go.

This past Friday night, during a typical night of her not going to sleep, it just came to me -- put her in her bed.  Let her fall asleep on her own.  So I did.  Did she cry?  Of course.  For about 20 minutes.  When she was a little baby, that 20 minutes would've seemed like 20 hours.  But Friday night?  It was over before I got emotional.  Maybe it was God's way of helping me let go because I promise you, I didn't feel bad AT ALL.  I told her "you're okay" a few times through her door, but I did not break.  Maybe because I felt like I didn't have a choice.

Saturday when I put her down for her nap, she cried about five minutes.  Same thing Saturday night at bedtime.  Tonight after I kissed her and told her I loved her and put her down, she didn't contest.  I turned on the monitors and turned out the light.  I went in there 15 minutes or so later, and she was asleep.  GOD IS GOOD.

I was prepared for at least a weeklong battle because I've heard all the horror stories with these situations, but it went extremely well.  I prayed about this weeks ago...He never ceases to amaze me.

If you've made it this far, sorry for boring you with sleep talk.  This is such a pivotal event in my house, so it's really important to me (blog/"scrapbook" worthy).  Danny and I will miss those little feet kicking us, and the pillow-hogging, but every one in this house will be happier.

She's slept GREAT and has woken up well-rested each time.  As for the night whining/nightmares, we haven't experienced them at all the last couple of nights.  I hope it stays this way.

Here are some random pics of my little sweetie from the last few days.

Walking around so casually in her daddy's shoes.  No shoes are safe in this house.

Friday morning before school (fall festival day).

This is the second time she's climbed in the tub fully clothed.  Too funny.

I hope everyone has a great week! 

2 comments:

  1. I'm glad Morgan did so good!! Kids are resiliant (sp?). We had a similar sleep situation only ours was from turning her crib into a big girl bed and our "perfect sleeper" turning into a grumpy, sleep deprived little girl! Don't think I didn't turn her bed back inot a crib after letting her sleep in a big girl bed for over a month. She did just like Mo and cried the first night and then pretty much nothing after that. Everyone in our house is alot more rested! I'm glad you guys are all getting some good sleep!! I love her costume too!

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  2. Learned a lot from this blog, Gerri. Had fun reading it too. You are so funny! Did you make her costume? I just love it!

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